Success is a decision, right? That’s what you hear countless coaches and leaders in personal development say. But is it as simple as that?
Well, yes and no.
Reducing success to being just a decision that you make is oversimplifying a complex issue for many. For me, getting to that decision was a long journey.
It actually began with a desire to communicate with my spirit guides and a deep frustration that I wasn’t hearing them. That turned into anger because I felt left behind, like I didn’t matter. Then I got angry at myself because I knew that really it was me who was treating myself like my needs didn’t matter. *insert holy shit moment* At that moment I realized that I hadn’t chosen success yet. I was letting failure and fear still be an option, and that’s where my energy was flowing. So that’s the moment I chose to make success my only option.
This happened in about 5 minutes of meditation, which followed some deep tapping work I did the week before. The tapping cleared some limiting beliefs that were creating a fog that kept me from having this breakthrough. But it also took 5 years of ups and downs and a lot of disappointment to get to that place. Without going through everything I had, I could have said “I choose to be successful”, but it would have just been words.
Your affirmations must have true emotion behind them to create change.
You could say my decision to make success non-negotiable took 5 minutes or 5 years - it was kind of both! What will it take for you to make your success non-negotiable? And how can you give yourself more grace on the journey there?
If you’re ready for that breakthrough and need support getting there, the Stuck to Success program may be the right next step for you. Click below to book a free Discovery Session to explore what it would look like to do this work together. xx
What happens when you try tapping, and it doesn't feel like it's doing anything? Isn't it supposed to work? What gives?
Tapping should work for just about everyone, so if you've tried it and didn't feel like it was working, you may just need some simple tweaks. (You're not broken, promise!) Here are 4 reasons why tapping didn't work and how to fix them:
1. You only tapped for the symptom, not the problem.
Tapping can give you short term relief for things like anxiety and stress, but it'll work like a band-aid and the symptoms will return. In order to clear the symptoms, you'll need to get to the root of the problem and tap to clear that.
2. There are more limiting beliefs you need to clear.
Sometimes there are many limiting beliefs connected to a problem. I see this a lot when working with clients on money mindset. If you only cleared one limiting belief while tapping, but have others that are causing the same issue, you'll need to clear them all before the issue will resolve.
3. You need more tools to move forward.
You may have cleared a block but are left wondering "now what?" so you stay stuck. In order to move forward and make real change, you might need more tools like new skills, further education, the ability to see yourself in a new way, or a clear vision to work towards.
4. It actually is working!
Sometimes when tapping you'll feel an immediate shift, but not always. You might just need to give your body more time to integrate the healing and clearing that took place during tapping. For a few days following your tapping session, bring your awareness to the emotional triggers and beliefs that you tapped on, and you'll probably notice that they start feeling lighter or no longer bother you at all! Sometimes EFT results can be sneaky. ;)
Have you experienced any of these? I'd love to hear about your tapping breakthroughs and challenges!
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